July 19, 2018, 06:54:46 PM *
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
Login with username, password and session length
News: DUE TO SPAM, THESE FORUMS ARE NOW READ ONLY UNTIL WE CAN FIGURE OUT HOW TO CONTROL IT.

WELCOME to the Masque forums! There's lots to check out from our Salon forum word/picture/song games to our Blogs section for many fun posts to read. Give the General Discussion Board a look too for site updates and more! 
 
   Home   Help Login Register  
Pages: [1] 2 3 ... 10
 1 
 on: May 01, 2018, 10:43:15 PM 
Started by Admin - Last post by Admin
The BDSM room is a haven for learning on any BDSM topic. To facilitate this, we have designated a Topic of the Day. Guests are welcome to bring up any questions or new topics at any time, but we will direct chat toward the stated topic if there is a lag in the chat. On Topic photographs, art, quotations, thoughts, ideas, definitions, links, questions, teaching, experiences, and even jokes are welcome during the day and chats.

We will provide a few articles to refer to before chat.

We do ask that only on-topic photos and art be shared so that we don’t detract from the flow of chat.

An active-link copy is here: http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewpage.php?page=BDSM_Topics

May 1
Advice for New Lifestylers

http://www.evilmonk.org/A/begintip.cfm
https://www.katekinsey.com/advice-to-the-newbie-submissive.html
http://www.leathernroses.com/domination/advicenewdom.htm
May 2
50 Shades of BDSM Myths

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/16/fifty-shades-of-grey-isnt-bdsm_n_6684808.html
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/standard-deviations/201702/50-shades-happier-the-truth-about-bdsm-participants
https://ind.pn/2re5EDj
May 3
Pervertables/DIY Toys/Household Toys

https://www.kinkly.com/7/1058/passion-play/what-household-items-make-good-sex-toys
https://curioussub.wordpress.com/tag/pervertables/
http://www.frugaldomme.com/manufact/
May 4
Rewards and Punishment

http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/bryantreward.htm
https://asavory.wordpress.com/2011/06/21/punishments-and-rewards/
http://spirituallysubmissive.blogspot.com/p/punishment.html
May 5
What is BDSM/Philosophy

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201206/loving-introduction-bdsm
https://www.buzzfeed.com/caseygueren/ultimate-guide-to-bdsm?utm_term=.iqnJ2jRyw#.unXQrGnE2
http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=681&chapter=1
May 6
Relationship Dynamics/Collar Types/Collaring

http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/ravenrelationships.htm
http://www.libertypress.net/index.php/leather-life/604-d-s-relationships
http://www.bdsmdigest.com/bdsm-devices/types-of-collars/
http://bestslavetraining.com/training-techniques/general-slave-collar/
May 7
Limits/Rules

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/hard-limits-vs-soft-limits/
http://www.chicagonow.com/kinky-dominatrix/2012/11/kinky-bdsm-limits/
http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/skorpiolimits.htm
May 8
Role Play Online and Off

https://www.submissiveloving.com/bdsmscenes.html
https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/the-keys-to-role-play/
https://www.lelo.com/blog/explore-sexual-role-playing/
May 9
Fear in the Scene

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/should-a-slave-be-afraid/
http://www.paganbdsm.org/brokentoys/misc_panicattack.html
http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-jenn/responsible-fear-play/
May 10
BDSM vs. Abuse

http://domsubfriends.com/library/bd-v-ab.shtml
http://www.sirbamm.com/smvabuse.html
http://sextoyslsos.com/sex-tips/bdsm-vs-abuse/
May 11
Gor

New to Gorean forums? by Dragon  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=206&chapter=1
The Word "slut" by Nahdia   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=63&chapter=1
Quotes of Gor   http://www.gor-now.net/delphius2002/id58.htm#Slavery%20Quotes
May 12
BDSM and D/s as a Trend

How BDSM Culture Plays A Role In The Fashion Industry  http://www.fagansfinds.com/home/bdsm-culture-in-the-fashion-industry
SEX: The hottest trends   https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/sex/tips/g1122/sex-trends-hot-sex-trends/?slide=1
BedPost: Popular culture often misrepresents BDSM  http://www.thepostathens.com/article/2017/09/bdsm-history-bed-post
May 13
Extremes in the lifestyle

BDSM Wiki http://www.bdsmwiki.info/Category:Edge_Play
Defining GroinTorment: Genitorture & Groinbusting  https://fetlife.com/groups/88641/group_posts/4731807
Humiliation Chart - Ideas for BDSM Humiliation Play https://bdsmcafe.com/resources/bdsm-activities-guides-tutorials/humiliation-chart-ideas-bdsm-humiliation-play/
May 14
Dreaming, BDSM fantasy scenes

13 Of The Kinkiest Fantasies People Are Into   https://www.buzzfeed.com/benhenry/kinky-things-that-people-are-actually-into?utm_term=.abyAwq5BgP#.xcR3X4AmEB
How Common Are BDSM Fantasies?   https://www.lehmiller.com/blog/2014/11/12/how-common-are-bdsm-fantasies-infographic
24 Men Admit To The Perverted Sexual Fantasies They’re Too Embarrassed To Tell Anyone About   https://thoughtcatalog.com/lisa-woods/2016/09/24-naughty-men-admit-to-the-perverted-sexual-fantasies-theyre-too-embarrassed-to-tell-anyone-about/
May 15
Tasks

Some Tips For Online Task Development  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=356&chapter=1
12 Tasks for Your Sub To Do   https://blog.swingtowns.com/fetish/submissive-tasks/
Tasks and Projects – How To Keep Them In Line  http://dominantguide.com/524/tasks-and-projects-how-to-keep-them-in-line/
May 16
Hot Pics, Hotter Quotes

Sex.com BDSM http://www.sex.com/pics/bdsm/
BDSM on Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/Amethystrain1/bdsm/?lp=true
15 BDSM Tumblrs to satisfy all your kinks  https://www.dailydot.com/irl/bdsm-tumblr/
May 17
BDSM horror stories/ how not to do it

BDSM Dangers  https://thepowerexchange.wordpress.com/back-to-the-basics/bdsm-dangers/
A sobering reminder about the inherent dangers in what we do  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=593&chapter=1
Emergency Training for SM Practitioners  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=58&chapter=1
May 18
Game Day - the fun kind. We'll have a few chat games throughout the day

Room Slut
Pole Dancing
Harmony
Naughty Trivia
The Ballroom
Serves
May 19
How-To do your favorite BDSM thing

A Beginner's Guide to BDSM: Using and Enjoying Restraint Play Sex Toys  https://www.sportsheets.com/pages/beginners-guide-bdsm-using-enjoying-restraint-play-sex-toys-slp
Beginner's Guide To Sensation Play  https://www.uberkinky.co.uk/essential-guides/sensation-play-guides/beginners-guide-to-sensation-play.html
Role-Playing Scenarios  https://www.submissiveloving.com/bdsmscenes.html
The Garden How-To  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/browse.php?type=categories&catid=12
May 20
DD/lg, MD/lb, CG,l ageplay, infantilism, littles, middles, and Bigs

What is the DD/lg dynamic?  http://daddys-doll.blogspot.com/2013/09/what-is-ddlg-dynamic.html
What Makes a Good Daddy/Mommy? http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=342&chapter=1
Littles and Age-players - What's the Difference?  http://a-little-understanding.webs.com/littlesvsageplayers.htm
May 21
Petplay, Animal play, Pony play

BDSM 101: What is Petplay?  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjpmYgPxQ7M
Checklist for Petplay   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=531&chapter=1
Pet Play  https://limitsunleashed.com/2017/01/05/pet-play/
May 22
BDSM and D/s art, stories, and poetry

The Masque The Attic  http://www.themasque.net/efiction/browse.php?type=categories&catid=4
deviantArt BDSM  https://www.deviantart.com/newest/?section=&global=1&q=bdsm
Poetry and Prose  http://www.leathernroses.com/poems/poems.htm
May 23
Training

What Does a Dom Mean When He Says, "You Need Training" https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/what-does-a-dom-mean-when-he-says-you-need-training
The Basics of Slave Training  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=372&chapter=1
An Introduction to BDSM: How to be a Dom  http://domcoaching.com/introduction-to-kink-being-dominant
May 24
Dangerous BDSM

Exploring The Dunning-Kruger effect in BDSM  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=597&chapter=1
Walking In A Wannabee Wonderland: My Experience With A Wannabee Slave  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=434&chapter=1
Is S&M dangerous? Let’s look at the evidence  https://slate.me/25KprXh
May 25
BDSM and the Law

The Law, S/M and You  https://www.evilmonk.org/a/law.cfm
CONSENT and BDSM: The State of the Law https://www.ncsfreedom.org/component/k2/item/580-consent-and-bdsm-the-state-of-the-law
WTF: Since When is BDSM Technically Against the Law?  https://milk.xyz/articles/wtf-since-when-is-bdsm-technically-against-the-law/
May 26
Fetishes

The World's 10 Most Common Fetishes, Revealed  https://www.askmen.com/dating/vanessa/25_love_secrets.html
25 Fetishes You Probably Never Knew Existed  https://www.buzzfeed.com/alejandroalba/fetishes-you-probably-never-knew-existed?utm_term=.obrVZj3KLY#.dr60eVqMBA
Metro’s A to Z of fetishes  http://metro.co.uk/2017/07/05/metros-a-to-z-of-fetishes-b-is-for-balls-balloons-and-burping-6721512/?ito=cbshare
May 27
BDSM in the Media

BDSM and the Media: The Influence of Media on the Perception of BDSM  https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/bdsm-and-the-media-two-sides-of-a-coin
BDSM in culture and media  http://www.artandpopularculture.com/BDSM_in_culture_and_media BDSM Tropes http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/UsefulNotes/BDSM
May 28
Listening and Communication

How to Really Listen  http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-guest-author/how-to-really-listen/
Power of Listening  https://limitsunleashed.com/2014/10/13/the-power-of-listening/
Meta-Communication  http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-jenn/meta-communication/
On Communication Within a Dom/Sub Partnership  http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2014/05/on-communication-within-domsub.html
May 29
Emotional Issues in Dom/Sub Relationships

Emotional Issues in Dom/Sub Relationships  http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/02/emotional-issues-in-domsub-relationships.html
Emotional Dependency in D/s Relationships  https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/emotional-dependency-in-ds-relationships
Submission and Codependency – A Discussion  https://redefinedslave.wordpress.com/2014/02/01/submission-and-codependency-a-discussion/
May 30
Poly BDSM

How a Submissive Can Have Two Dominants and Make It Work (Hint: It Takes Communication)  https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/dominants
Polyamory  http://dominantguide.com/encyclopedia/polyamory/
Poly relationships and BDSM  https://thecage.co/phpBB/viewtopic.php?t=210&start=0&postdays=0&postorder=asc&highlight=
Three’s a Crowd, Four’s a Harem  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=563&chapter=1
May 31
Keeping the Spark Alive

“What Are We Going To Do Today, Dom?” – Some Ideas to Keep A Dynamic… Dynamic  http://dominantguide.com/3734/what-are-we-going-to-do-today-dom-some-ideas-to-keep-a-dynamic-dynamic/
How to Keep Your BDSM Relationship Fresh  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G71UtP1PWW8
10 principles for healthy 24/7 D/s and M/s  https://sexgeek.wordpress.com/2010/07/08/10-principles-for-healthy-247-ds-and-ms/
 

 2 
 on: May 01, 2018, 10:40:33 PM 
Started by Admin - Last post by Admin
The BDSM room is a haven for learning on any BDSM topic. To facilitate this, we have designated a Topic of the Day. Guests are welcome to bring up any questions or new topics at any time, but we will direct chat toward the stated topic if there is a lag in the chat. On Topic photographs, art, quotations, thoughts, ideas, definitions, links, questions, teaching, experiences, and even jokes are welcome during the day and chats.

We will provide a few articles to refer to before chat.

We do ask that only on-topic photos and art be shared so that we don’t detract from the flow of chat.

An active-link copy is here: http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewpage.php?page=BDSM_Topics

May 1
Advice for New Lifestylers

http://www.evilmonk.org/A/begintip.cfm
https://www.katekinsey.com/advice-to-the-newbie-submissive.html
http://www.leathernroses.com/domination/advicenewdom.htm
May 2
50 Shades of BDSM Myths

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/16/fifty-shades-of-grey-isnt-bdsm_n_6684808.html
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/standard-deviations/201702/50-shades-happier-the-truth-about-bdsm-participants
https://ind.pn/2re5EDj
May 3
Pervertables/DIY Toys/Household Toys

https://www.kinkly.com/7/1058/passion-play/what-household-items-make-good-sex-toys
https://curioussub.wordpress.com/tag/pervertables/
http://www.frugaldomme.com/manufact/
May 4
Rewards and Punishment

http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/bryantreward.htm
https://asavory.wordpress.com/2011/06/21/punishments-and-rewards/
http://spirituallysubmissive.blogspot.com/p/punishment.html
May 5
What is BDSM/Philosophy

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201206/loving-introduction-bdsm
https://www.buzzfeed.com/caseygueren/ultimate-guide-to-bdsm?utm_term=.iqnJ2jRyw#.unXQrGnE2
http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=681&chapter=1
May 6
Relationship Dynamics/Collar Types/Collaring

http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/ravenrelationships.htm
http://www.libertypress.net/index.php/leather-life/604-d-s-relationships
http://www.bdsmdigest.com/bdsm-devices/types-of-collars/
http://bestslavetraining.com/training-techniques/general-slave-collar/
May 7
Limits/Rules

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/hard-limits-vs-soft-limits/
http://www.chicagonow.com/kinky-dominatrix/2012/11/kinky-bdsm-limits/
http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/skorpiolimits.htm
May 8
Role Play Online and Off

https://www.submissiveloving.com/bdsmscenes.html
https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/the-keys-to-role-play/
https://www.lelo.com/blog/explore-sexual-role-playing/
May 9
Fear in the Scene

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/should-a-slave-be-afraid/
http://www.paganbdsm.org/brokentoys/misc_panicattack.html
http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-jenn/responsible-fear-play/
May 10
BDSM vs. Abuse

http://domsubfriends.com/library/bd-v-ab.shtml
http://www.sirbamm.com/smvabuse.html
http://sextoyslsos.com/sex-tips/bdsm-vs-abuse/
May 11
Gor

New to Gorean forums? by Dragon  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=206&chapter=1
The Word "slut" by Nahdia   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=63&chapter=1
Quotes of Gor   http://www.gor-now.net/delphius2002/id58.htm#Slavery%20Quotes
May 12
BDSM and D/s as a Trend

How BDSM Culture Plays A Role In The Fashion Industry  http://www.fagansfinds.com/home/bdsm-culture-in-the-fashion-industry
SEX: The hottest trends   https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/sex/tips/g1122/sex-trends-hot-sex-trends/?slide=1
BedPost: Popular culture often misrepresents BDSM  http://www.thepostathens.com/article/2017/09/bdsm-history-bed-post
May 13
Extremes in the lifestyle

BDSM Wiki http://www.bdsmwiki.info/Category:Edge_Play
Defining GroinTorment: Genitorture & Groinbusting  https://fetlife.com/groups/88641/group_posts/4731807
Humiliation Chart - Ideas for BDSM Humiliation Play https://bdsmcafe.com/resources/bdsm-activities-guides-tutorials/humiliation-chart-ideas-bdsm-humiliation-play/
May 14
Dreaming, BDSM fantasy scenes

13 Of The Kinkiest Fantasies People Are Into   https://www.buzzfeed.com/benhenry/kinky-things-that-people-are-actually-into?utm_term=.abyAwq5BgP#.xcR3X4AmEB
How Common Are BDSM Fantasies?   https://www.lehmiller.com/blog/2014/11/12/how-common-are-bdsm-fantasies-infographic
24 Men Admit To The Perverted Sexual Fantasies They’re Too Embarrassed To Tell Anyone About   https://thoughtcatalog.com/lisa-woods/2016/09/24-naughty-men-admit-to-the-perverted-sexual-fantasies-theyre-too-embarrassed-to-tell-anyone-about/
May 15
Tasks

Some Tips For Online Task Development  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=356&chapter=1
12 Tasks for Your Sub To Do   https://blog.swingtowns.com/fetish/submissive-tasks/
Tasks and Projects – How To Keep Them In Line  http://dominantguide.com/524/tasks-and-projects-how-to-keep-them-in-line/
May 16
Hot Pics, Hotter Quotes

Sex.com BDSM http://www.sex.com/pics/bdsm/
BDSM on Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/Amethystrain1/bdsm/?lp=true
15 BDSM Tumblrs to satisfy all your kinks  https://www.dailydot.com/irl/bdsm-tumblr/
May 17
BDSM horror stories/ how not to do it

BDSM Dangers  https://thepowerexchange.wordpress.com/back-to-the-basics/bdsm-dangers/
A sobering reminder about the inherent dangers in what we do  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=593&chapter=1
Emergency Training for SM Practitioners  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=58&chapter=1
May 18
Game Day - the fun kind. We'll have a few chat games throughout the day

Room Slut
Pole Dancing
Harmony
Naughty Trivia
The Ballroom
Serves
May 19
How-To do your favorite BDSM thing

A Beginner's Guide to BDSM: Using and Enjoying Restraint Play Sex Toys  https://www.sportsheets.com/pages/beginners-guide-bdsm-using-enjoying-restraint-play-sex-toys-slp
Beginner's Guide To Sensation Play  https://www.uberkinky.co.uk/essential-guides/sensation-play-guides/beginners-guide-to-sensation-play.html
Role-Playing Scenarios  https://www.submissiveloving.com/bdsmscenes.html
The Garden How-To  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/browse.php?type=categories&catid=12
May 20
DD/lg, MD/lb, CG,l ageplay, infantilism, littles, middles, and Bigs

What is the DD/lg dynamic?  http://daddys-doll.blogspot.com/2013/09/what-is-ddlg-dynamic.html
What Makes a Good Daddy/Mommy? http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=342&chapter=1
Littles and Age-players - What's the Difference?  http://a-little-understanding.webs.com/littlesvsageplayers.htm
May 21
Petplay, Animal play, Pony play

BDSM 101: What is Petplay?  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjpmYgPxQ7M
Checklist for Petplay   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=531&chapter=1
Pet Play  https://limitsunleashed.com/2017/01/05/pet-play/
May 22
BDSM and D/s art, stories, and poetry

The Masque The Attic  http://www.themasque.net/efiction/browse.php?type=categories&catid=4
deviantArt BDSM  https://www.deviantart.com/newest/?section=&global=1&q=bdsm
Poetry and Prose  http://www.leathernroses.com/poems/poems.htm
May 23
Training

What Does a Dom Mean When He Says, "You Need Training" https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/what-does-a-dom-mean-when-he-says-you-need-training
The Basics of Slave Training  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=372&chapter=1
An Introduction to BDSM: How to be a Dom  http://domcoaching.com/introduction-to-kink-being-dominant
May 24
Dangerous BDSM

Exploring The Dunning-Kruger effect in BDSM  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=597&chapter=1
Walking In A Wannabee Wonderland: My Experience With A Wannabee Slave  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=434&chapter=1
Is S&M dangerous? Let’s look at the evidence  https://slate.me/25KprXh
May 25
BDSM and the Law

The Law, S/M and You  https://www.evilmonk.org/a/law.cfm
CONSENT and BDSM: The State of the Law https://www.ncsfreedom.org/component/k2/item/580-consent-and-bdsm-the-state-of-the-law
WTF: Since When is BDSM Technically Against the Law?  https://milk.xyz/articles/wtf-since-when-is-bdsm-technically-against-the-law/
May 26
Fetishes

The World's 10 Most Common Fetishes, Revealed  https://www.askmen.com/dating/vanessa/25_love_secrets.html
25 Fetishes You Probably Never Knew Existed  https://www.buzzfeed.com/alejandroalba/fetishes-you-probably-never-knew-existed?utm_term=.obrVZj3KLY#.dr60eVqMBA
Metro’s A to Z of fetishes  http://metro.co.uk/2017/07/05/metros-a-to-z-of-fetishes-b-is-for-balls-balloons-and-burping-6721512/?ito=cbshare
May 27
BDSM in the Media

BDSM and the Media: The Influence of Media on the Perception of BDSM  https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/bdsm-and-the-media-two-sides-of-a-coin
BDSM in culture and media  http://www.artandpopularculture.com/BDSM_in_culture_and_media BDSM Tropes http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/UsefulNotes/BDSM
May 28
Listening and Communication

How to Really Listen  http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-guest-author/how-to-really-listen/
Power of Listening  https://limitsunleashed.com/2014/10/13/the-power-of-listening/
Meta-Communication  http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-jenn/meta-communication/
On Communication Within a Dom/Sub Partnership  http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2014/05/on-communication-within-domsub.html
May 29
Emotional Issues in Dom/Sub Relationships

Emotional Issues in Dom/Sub Relationships  http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/02/emotional-issues-in-domsub-relationships.html
Emotional Dependency in D/s Relationships  https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/emotional-dependency-in-ds-relationships
Submission and Codependency – A Discussion  https://redefinedslave.wordpress.com/2014/02/01/submission-and-codependency-a-discussion/
May 30
Poly BDSM

How a Submissive Can Have Two Dominants and Make It Work (Hint: It Takes Communication)  https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/dominants
Polyamory  http://dominantguide.com/encyclopedia/polyamory/
Poly relationships and BDSM  https://thecage.co/phpBB/viewtopic.php?t=210&start=0&postdays=0&postorder=asc&highlight=
Three’s a Crowd, Four’s a Harem  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=563&chapter=1
May 31
Keeping the Spark Alive

“What Are We Going To Do Today, Dom?” – Some Ideas to Keep A Dynamic… Dynamic  http://dominantguide.com/3734/what-are-we-going-to-do-today-dom-some-ideas-to-keep-a-dynamic-dynamic/
How to Keep Your BDSM Relationship Fresh  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G71UtP1PWW8
10 principles for healthy 24/7 D/s and M/s  https://sexgeek.wordpress.com/2010/07/08/10-principles-for-healthy-247-ds-and-ms/
 

 3 
 on: April 22, 2018, 05:57:54 PM 
Started by Admin - Last post by Admin
The ultimate Guidelines document, fully discussed by the chatroom.

BDSM Room Etiquette, Expectations & Traditions...
to better understand why we're doing the things we're doing.

321Chat's BDSM room is a safe place to teach, learn, and celebrate all things related to Domination, submission, and BDSM. It is also understood that the topic of conversation varies greatly and does not always include D/s or BDSM. BDSM topics are always encouraged, however. Polite debate and discussion of D/s topics should be the goal of the chat room.

While the following are not "rules" and by no means mandatory, we hope you will join us in celebrating some of our traditions and expectations.

•   Respect the other chatters. We do not discriminate between those who participate in BDSM activities and those who do not. We also have a policy of YKINMKBYKIOK (Your Kink Is Not My Kink, But Your Kink Is Okay). The only exceptions are violations of the site rules.

•   Chatters are respectfully requested to register usernames and have a correct age listed in the profile.

•   The Dominants govern the room. The Dominants, as a group, are empowered to control the behavior, discipline, and tone of the room. The Dominants should encourage others to ignore unpleasant elements in chat and encourage the misdirected chatter to the proper room. The submissives should let the dominants handle the issue. No single Dominant is in charge; the collective majority is. Moderators are present to enforce the site rules.

•   Though allowing the Dominants the honor of assisting and protecting is preferred and encouraged, under any circumstances, the submissives are empowered to defend themselves. Use of the Block button is suggested for the entire room. Moderators are present to enforce the site rules.

•   Traditionally, a Capitalized name is a Dominant or Top; a lowercase name is a submissive or bottom. Your mileage and grammar preferences may vary.

•   While we understand English grammar rules, traditionally, a Dominant is referred to with capitalized pronouns and honorifics as a courtesy, i.e., Her, You, They, Sir, Ma'am; a submissive is referred to with lowercase. This may translate into using phrases like “Y/you A/all”, meaning a collective of Dominants and submissives. Submissive or slave referral to self in third person is acceptable and may be considered a formality. Honorifics are not required in chat.

•   Submissives are encouraged ask permission to enter and leave the chat room. Dominants should grant entrance promptly. This immediately reminds every person attending that this is a BDSM room. It puts the submissives into a D/s mindset, rather than a generic chat or play mindset. Granting entrance engages the Dominants in their service and attentiveness, too. It produces a symbiosis of D/s in two sentences. It creates a theme of service and formality that differentiates this room from general chat rooms. Some Dominants have their own rules for their submissives’ entrance. Those rules will always prevail.

•   If a collared, protected, or otherwise claimed submissive misbehaves, discipline or correction should be given by the Dominant he/she is protected by. If another Dominant has a complaint about a collared submissive, it should be given directly to that submissive's Dominant, privately.

•   If an unowned submissive or a Dominant is disruptive, the other present Dominants, with the cooperation and advice from the room’s Moderator (not a 321 Mod), will manage the discussion/discipline of the member. This should be a group decision, and never the actions of a single Dominant, even if the matter must be tabled until Others are present.

•   Please ask to private message other members of the room.

•   The rooms’ submissives, slaves, and bottoms are not required to serve any person they are not bound to.

•   We have a Topic of the Day. Guests are welcome to bring up any questions or new topics at any time, but we will direct chat toward the scheduled topic if there is a lag in the chat. On Topic photographs, art, quotations, thoughts, ideas, definitions, links, questions, teaching, experiences, and jokes are welcome. A calendar for the chats is posted in several places.

•   Members new to BDSM, both Dominant and submissive, are encouraged to seek an experienced mentor for guidance and learning. Mentorship is not normally a sexual relationship and may or may not cross D/s lines. Questions from newer lifestyle people are always welcome in the room. It is always a good idea to research a mentor before asking for mentorship.

•   Unless the Dominant/Top involved in a public scene invites participation, do not jump into a scene through action, advice, or talking with the people in the scene. They are focused on each other and distractions are disruptive. Crosstalk during a scene or serve is allowed.

•   While the BDSM Room does have food and drinks from John Norman’s Gor series, as well as a pile of furs for slaves, and Gorean serves and dances are welcome and appreciated, 321sexchat’s BDSM room is not a Gorean chat.

•   Please do not post random porn photos, links, or music to the BDSM room. There are other rooms for that. We prefer our photos to be on theme and coincide with the topic being discussed.

•   For ease of understanding, please spell out all of your words in chat. This is an English speaking chat.

•   Politeness is required, respect is earned.

Special Thanks to The BDSM Garden and the BDSM room members for their contributions to this page.


 4 
 on: April 22, 2018, 05:43:24 PM 
Started by Admin - Last post by Admin
email kissa_bites@yahoo.com to request edits or additions. Not all topics will be addressed each month.

The BDSM room is a haven for learning on any BDSM topic. To facilitate this, we have designated a Topic of the Day. Guests are welcome to bring up any questions or new topics at any time, but we will direct chat toward the stated topic if there is a lag in the chat. On Topic photographs, art, quotations, thoughts, ideas, definitions, links, questions, teaching, experiences, and even jokes are welcome during the day and chats.

We will provide a few articles to refer to before chat.

We do ask that only on-topic photos and art be shared so that we don’t detract from the flow of chat.

To add:
-Contracts
-Switching
-What a submissive needs to expect and demand from a potential Dominant
-sterotypes of behavior being applied to control roles e.g. a sub refusing to do activities for a dominant because it wasn't what they considered dominant desires
-consent from all aspects, from the fallacy of implied consent to enthusiastic consent to expressed consent
-recipes and food play


Fetishes
•   The World's 10 Most Common Fetishes, Revealed  https://www.askmen.com/dating/vanessa/25_love_secrets.html
•   25 Fetishes You Probably Never Knew Existed  https://www.buzzfeed.com/alejandroalba/fetishes-you-probably-never-knew-existed?utm_term=.obrVZj3KLY#.dr60eVqMBA
•   Metro’s A to Z of fetishes  http://metro.co.uk/2017/07/05/metros-a-to-z-of-fetishes-b-is-for-balls-balloons-and-burping-6721512/?ito=cbshare


aftercare
sub drop/Top drop
shibari/kinbaku/ties
leather/steel bondage
impact play
sensation play
subspace/top space
safety/safewords/SSC/RACK/PRICK
serving
etiquette/high protocol

Advice for New Lifestylers
•   http://www.evilmonk.org/A/begintip.cfm
•   https://www.katekinsey.com/advice-to-the-newbie-submissive.html
•   http://www.leathernroses.com/domination/advicenewdom.htm

50 Shades of BDSM Myths
•   https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/16/fifty-shades-of-grey-isnt-bdsm_n_6684808.html
•   https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/standard-deviations/201702/50-shades-happier-the-truth-about-bdsm-participants
•   https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/common-bdsm-myths-its-not-a-new-fad-its-not-violent-and-not-everyone-who-partakes-is-psychologically-a6702396.html

Pervertables/DIY Toys/Household Toys
•   https://www.kinkly.com/7/1058/passion-play/what-household-items-make-good-sex-toys
•   https://curioussub.wordpress.com/tag/pervertables/
•   http://www.frugaldomme.com/manufact/

Rewards and Punishment
•   http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/bryantreward.htm
•   https://asavory.wordpress.com/2011/06/21/punishments-and-rewards/
•   http://spirituallysubmissive.blogspot.com/p/punishment.html

What is BDSM/Philosophy                                                                                                                                     •   https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201206/loving-introduction-bdsm
•   https://www.buzzfeed.com/caseygueren/ultimate-guide-to-bdsm?utm_term=.iqnJ2jRyw#.unXQrGnE2
•   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=681&chapter=1                                                            
Relationship Dynamics/Collar Types/Collaring
•   http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/ravenrelationships.htm
•   http://www.libertypress.net/index.php/leather-life/604-d-s-relationships
•   http://www.bdsmdigest.com/bdsm-devices/types-of-collars/
•   http://bestslavetraining.com/training-techniques/general-slave-collar/

Limits/Rules
•   https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/hard-limits-vs-soft-limits/
•   http://www.chicagonow.com/kinky-dominatrix/2012/11/kinky-bdsm-limits/
•   http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/skorpiolimits.htm

Role Play Online and Off
•   https://www.submissiveloving.com/bdsmscenes.html
•   https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/the-keys-to-role-play/
•   https://www.lelo.com/blog/explore-sexual-role-playing/

Fear in the Scene
•   https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/should-a-slave-be-afraid/
•   http://www.paganbdsm.org/brokentoys/misc_panicattack.html
•   http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-jenn/responsible-fear-play/

BDSM vs. Abuse
•   http://domsubfriends.com/library/bd-v-ab.shtml
•   http://www.sirbamm.com/smvabuse.html
•   http://sextoyslsos.com/sex-tips/bdsm-vs-abuse/


Journaling and journaling topics
Relationship rules
Public outings/public BDSM
Self-care for the unpaired
Tools and Toys
Self-training for the unpaired
How kinky is kinky?
Mental and Physical Handicaps in BDSM
The BDSM Spectrum

Gor
•   New to Gorean forums? by Dragon   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=206&chapter=1
•   The Word "slut" by Nahdia   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=63&chapter=1
•   Quotes of Gor                     http://www.gor-now.net/delphius2002/id58.htm#Slavery%20Quotes

BDSM and D/s as a Trend
•   How BDSM Culture Plays A Role In The Fashion Industry  http://www.fagansfinds.com/home/bdsm-culture-in-the-fashion-industry
•   SEX: The hottest trends   https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/sex/tips/g1122/sex-trends-hot-sex-trends/?slide=1
•   BedPost: Popular culture often misrepresents BDSM  http://www.thepostathens.com/article/2017/09/bdsm-history-bed-post

Extremes in the lifestyle
•   BDSM Wiki http://www.bdsmwiki.info/Category:Edge_Play
•   Defining GroinTorment: Genitorture & Groinbusting  https://fetlife.com/groups/88641/group_posts/4731807
•   Humiliation Chart - Ideas for BDSM Humiliation Play https://bdsmcafe.com/resources/bdsm-activities-guides-tutorials/humiliation-chart-ideas-bdsm-humiliation-play/

Dreaming, BDSM fantasy scenes
•   13 Of The Kinkiest Fantasies People Are Into   https://www.buzzfeed.com/benhenry/kinky-things-that-people-are-actually-into?utm_term=.abyAwq5BgP#.xcR3X4AmEB
•   How Common Are BDSM Fantasies?   https://www.lehmiller.com/blog/2014/11/12/how-common-are-bdsm-fantasies-infographic
•   24 Men Admit To The Perverted Sexual Fantasies They’re Too Embarrassed To Tell Anyone About   https://thoughtcatalog.com/lisa-woods/2016/09/24-naughty-men-admit-to-the-perverted-sexual-fantasies-theyre-too-embarrassed-to-tell-anyone-about/

Tasks
•   Some Tips For Online Task Development  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=356&chapter=1
•   12 Tasks for Your Sub To Do   https://blog.swingtowns.com/fetish/submissive-tasks/
•   Tasks and Projects – How To Keep Them In Line  http://dominantguide.com/524/tasks-and-projects-how-to-keep-them-in-line/

Hot Pics, Hotter Quotes
•   Sex.com BDSM http://www.sex.com/pics/bdsm/
•   BDSM on Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/Amethystrain1/bdsm/?lp=true
•   15 BDSM Tumblrs to satisfy all your kinks  https://www.dailydot.com/irl/bdsm-tumblr/BDSM horror stories/ how not to do it

BDSM horror stories/ how not to do it
•   BDSM Dangers  https://thepowerexchange.wordpress.com/back-to-the-basics/bdsm-dangers/
•   A sobering reminder about the inherent dangers in what we do  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=593&chapter=1
•   Emergency Training for SM Practitioners  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=58&chapter=1

Game Day - the fun kind. We'll have a few chat games throughout the day
•   Room Slut
•   Pole Dancing
•   Harmony
•   Naughty Trivia
•   The Ballroom
•   Serves

How-To do your favorite BDSM thing
•   A Beginner's Guide to BDSM: Using and Enjoying Restraint Play Sex Toys  https://www.sportsheets.com/pages/beginners-guide-bdsm-using-enjoying-restraint-play-sex-toys-slp
•   Beginner's Guide To Sensation Play  https://www.uberkinky.co.uk/essential-guides/sensation-play-guides/beginners-guide-to-sensation-play.html
•   Role-Playing Scenarios  https://www.submissiveloving.com/bdsmscenes.html
•   The Garden How-To  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/browse.php?type=categories&catid=12

DD/lg, MD/lb, CG,l ageplay, infantilism, littles, middles, and Bigs
•   What is the DD/lg dynamic?  http://daddys-doll.blogspot.com/2013/09/what-is-ddlg-dynamic.html
•   What Makes a Good Daddy/Mommy? http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=342&chapter=1
•   Littles and Age-players - What's the Difference?  http://a-little-understanding.webs.com/littlesvsageplayers.htm

Petplay, Animal play, Pony play
•   BDSM 101: What is Petplay?  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjpmYgPxQ7M
•   Checklist for Petplay   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=531&chapter=1
•   Pet Play  https://limitsunleashed.com/2017/01/05/pet-play/

BDSM and D/s art, stories, and poetry
•   The Masque The Attic  http://www.themasque.net/efiction/browse.php?type=categories&catid=4
•   deviantArt BDSM  https://www.deviantart.com/newest/?section=&global=1&q=bdsm
•   Poetry and Prose  http://www.leathernroses.com/poems/poems.htm

Training
•   What Does a Dom Mean When He Says, "You Need Training" https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/what-does-a-dom-mean-when-he-says-you-need-training
•   The Basics of Slave Training  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=372&chapter=1
•   An Introduction to BDSM: How to be a Dom  http://domcoaching.com/introduction-to-kink-being-dominant

Dangerous BDSM
•   Exploring The Dunning-Kruger effect in BDSM  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=597&chapter=1
•   Walking In A Wannabee Wonderland: My Experience With A Wannabee Slave  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=434&chapter=1
•   Is S&M dangerous? Let’s look at the evidence  http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/human_nature/2013/07/bondage_s_m_dominance_and_submission_are_they_dangerous_let_s_look_at_the.html

BDSM and the Law
•   The Law, S/M and You  https://www.evilmonk.org/a/law.cfm
•   CONSENT and BDSM: The State of the Law https://www.ncsfreedom.org/component/k2/item/580-consent-and-bdsm-the-state-of-the-law
•   WTF: Since When is BDSM Technically Against the Law?  https://milk.xyz/articles/wtf-since-when-is-bdsm-technically-against-the-law/

Fetishes
•   The World's 10 Most Common Fetishes, Revealed  https://www.askmen.com/dating/vanessa/25_love_secrets.html
•   25 Fetishes You Probably Never Knew Existed  https://www.buzzfeed.com/alejandroalba/fetishes-you-probably-never-knew-existed?utm_term=.obrVZj3KLY#.dr60eVqMBA
•   Metro’s A to Z of fetishes  http://metro.co.uk/2017/07/05/metros-a-to-z-of-fetishes-b-is-for-balls-balloons-and-burping-6721512/?ito=cbshare

BDSM in the Media
•   BDSM and the Media: The Influence of Media on the Perception of BDSM  https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/bdsm-and-the-media-two-sides-of-a-coin
•   BDSM in culture and media  http://www.artandpopularculture.com/BDSM_in_culture_and_media
•   BDSM Tropes http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/UsefulNotes/BDSM

 5 
 on: April 22, 2018, 05:42:03 PM 
Started by Admin - Last post by Admin
email kissa_bites@yahoo.com to request edits or additions. Not all topics will be addressed each month.

The BDSM room is a haven for learning on any BDSM topic. To facilitate this, we have designated a Topic of the Day. Guests are welcome to bring up any questions or new topics at any time, but we will direct chat toward the stated topic if there is a lag in the chat. On Topic photographs, art, quotations, thoughts, ideas, definitions, links, questions, teaching, experiences, and even jokes are welcome during the day and chats.

We will provide a few articles to refer to before chat.

We do ask that only on-topic photos and art be shared so that we don’t detract from the flow of chat.

aftercare,
shibari/kinbaku/ties
leather/steel bondage,
impact play,
sensation play,
subspace/top space,
safety/safewords/ssc/RACK/Prick,
bdsm vs abuse,
serving,
etiquette/high protocol,
advice for new lifestylers
50 shades of bdsm myths
pervertables/diy toys/household toys
rewards/punishment
what is BDSM/philosophy
relationship dynamics/collar types/collaring
limits/rules
Room Guidelines - vision vs reality.
Role play online and off
Fear in the scene
BDSM vs. abuse
Journaling and journaling topics
Relationship rules
Public outings/public BDSM
BDSM in the media
Self-care for the unpaired
Tools and Toys
Self-training for the unpaired
How kinky is kinky?
Extremes in the lifestyle
Dreaming, BDSM fantasy scenes
Tasks
Hot Pics, Hotter Quotes
BDSM horror stories/ how not to do it

 6 
 on: February 24, 2018, 11:41:14 AM 
Started by Haruhifan - Last post by Haruhifan
English Premier League...in bed

 7 
 on: August 31, 2017, 06:32:12 AM 
Started by Haruhifan - Last post by Haruhifan
Say so long to the summer and welcome in autumn at the Daily Free Quiz! http://www.funtrivia.com/private/main.cfm?tid=72651

Enjoy the Labor Day weekend as well everyone!

 8 
 on: August 06, 2017, 02:40:20 PM 
Started by Haruhifan - Last post by Haruhifan
Greetings!  It's been a while but 1 yearly local convention happened and I was at it so I wrote a new post convention report for it!

To read it please visit http://forum.yugiohtheabridgedseries.com/showthread.php?t=8683 or http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-994425/conbravo-2017

For my past streak of post convention reports please go to the full thread of those.

I'm not as active anymore on the convention scene but if I make one expect a new post convention report from it right here!

 9 
 on: June 29, 2017, 11:52:52 PM 
Started by Haruhifan - Last post by Haruhifan
Hey folks that do drop by.  Even if it's READ ONLY for now, if you want something fun to do and leave comments, do the Daily Quiz at http://www.funtrivia.com/private/main.cfm?tid=72651

Have a Happy Canada Day and Independence Day long weekend!

 10 
 on: May 27, 2017, 09:16:45 PM 
Started by Haruhifan - Last post by Haruhifan
Hi just a heads up that even if I'll only be keeping to local conventions that I'll always do post con reports when I do them!



To follow me you can always check at http://forum.yugiohtheabridgedseries.com/member.php?u=1208 and click on the STATISTICS tab to see my past posts.  You can also see my other profile at http://www.crunchyroll.com/user/trigunkwan but there I post under the Conventions forums normally at http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumcategory-391036/conventions-events so match up my username there to the posts I begin for a report.  Enjoy!

Pages: [1] 2 3 ... 10
The Masque forum theme © Christopher McCulloch
Powered by MySQL Powered by PHP Powered by SMF 1.1.13 | SMF © 2006-2011, Simple Machines LLC Valid XHTML 1.0! Valid CSS!