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 1 
 on: August 04, 2018, 03:27:19 PM 
Started by Admin - Last post by Admin
Sometime around 2001 a group of Harry Potter fans that had a bbs with a chat room and one day two people found themselves in it together, so they put out a message for people to come in and live chat for the first time. It was preposterously popular. We talked about college and studying and Potter and fanfic. Soon there was a schedule and it went on for some time until Yahoo yanked the feature with no warning.

The chat floated to another site where we talked about boyfriends and books and writing. After some time, the ads started becoming extremely pornographic to such a comedic effect it became distracting, so we had to move again.

We went to Chatzy where we talked about husbands and writing full vs. part time and kids and knitting and books and cheesemaking.

 

It was a cozy place full of friendly faces, whether they be happy or downright cranky, bonded together by love of fiction and writing and sometimes handicrafts and blowing off steam and I miss it.

 

We had little challenges, like where we wrote in 10 minute bursts. Once we brainstormed a story that became the fic Floo Flashers. Sometimes we had campfire rounds where everyone got a chance to add to the crackpot story.

 

Whether we were having a lazy night or an afternoon with games it was all great fun.

 

The hours that always worked for us were late Friday afternoons and evenings, from noon to midnight Saturdays, and sometimes Sunday mornings and evenings. If there was a national catastrophe or an election or something people tended to shuffle in while waiting for news reports.

 

I don’t know what your schedule is like, or how your platform works, but I’d like to start it again. If word gets out there will be a small group of older fans interested, and if there’s a moderator in the room it will be successful. If there’s a live mod talking to people as they come in increases their chances of staying in longer and creates larger crowds throughout the day.

 

Thanks for your consideration,
Teshara

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 on: July 31, 2018, 08:03:02 PM 
Started by Admin - Last post by Admin
Website Standard Terms and Conditions for Use

1.   1. Introduction.
The Masque Network Standard Terms And Conditions (these “Terms” or these “Website Standard Terms And Conditions”) contained herein on this webpage, shall govern your use of this website, including all pages within this website (collectively referred to herein below as this “Website”). These Terms apply in full force and effect to your use of this Website and by using this Website, you expressly accept all terms and conditions contained herein in full. You must not use this Website, if you have any objection to any of these Website Standard Terms And Conditions.
This Website is not for use by any minors (defined as those who are not at least 18 years of age), and you must not use this Website if you a minor.
The Masque complies with US Federal Code 2257, and all authors and models are over the age of 18.
This document works in tandem with the Guidelines posted on each The Masque Network site and does not override them in any way.

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Other than content you own, which you may have opted to include on this Website, under these Terms, The Masque Network and/or its licensors own all rights to the intellectual property and material contained in this Website, and all such rights are reserved.
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 on: July 31, 2018, 07:10:49 PM 
Started by Admin - Last post by Admin
Privacy Policy of http://www.themasque.net, http://www.wiktt.com, and http://www.thebdsmgarden
Privacy Policy
Effective date: July 31, 2018
The Masque Network ("us", "we", or "our") operates the http://www.themasque.net, , http://www.wiktt.com, and http://www.thebdsmgarden websites (the "Service").
This page informs you of our policies regarding the collection, use, and disclosure of personal data when you use our Service and the choices you have associated with that data. This Privacy Policy for The Masque is powered by FreePrivacyPolicy.com.
We use your data to provide and improve the Service. By using the Service, you agree to the collection and use of information in accordance with this policy. Unless otherwise defined in this Privacy Policy, terms used in this Privacy Policy have the same meanings as in our Terms and Conditions, accessible from http://www.themasque.net
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While using our Service, we may ask you to voluntarily provide us with certain personally identifiable information that can be used to contact or identify you ("Personal Data"). Personally identifiable information may include, but is not limited to:
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We have no control over and assume no responsibility for the content, privacy policies or practices of any third-party sites or services.
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Our Service does not address anyone under the age of 18 ("Children") and no one under the age of 18 is allowed on any The Masque Network site.
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 on: July 29, 2018, 10:44:34 PM 
Started by Admin - Last post by Admin
You are most welcome to The Masque, The WIKtT Archives, and The Garden and the Courtesan’s Ballroom. Please abide by the Courtesan’s rules to ensure an enjoyable time in her home.

The Masque, The WIKtT Archives, and The Garden Ballroom Chat rules

No one under the age of 18 is allowed on any The Masque Network website, no matter the laws in the country of residence. The Chat Monitors and Hosts will promptly remove any and all minors.

NO under-age, incest, snuff, extreme violent sexual abuse, racism, or bestiality role play, discussion, or requests are allowed, and offending chatters will be booted and banned without warning. Anyone found to be promoting illegal activities or distributing child pornography anywhere on The Masque and affiliated sites, including chat, will be reported to the appropriate authorities without mercy or hesitation.

No Chat Monitor will ask you for personal information to prove your identity, nor will you be asked by any chat or site official or Board member for your password or to go to another site to provide that information. If you are approached, do not follow instructions and do not download any files made available or linked to in chat.

No flooding, SPAMming, trolling, cloning, hacking, exploiting, spoofing, or harassing. The Masque and affiliated sites are in no way responsible for any damage as a result of clicking on any non-native site link.

Though we try to monitor chat, The Masque and affiliated sites and the Board are not responsible for any events, circumstances or actions perpetrated by those in or out of the chat room. Flag any offending post.

The chat rooms are monitored randomly by volunteer Chat Monitors and hosts. They have a broad spectrum of duties in the Ballroom, including aiding in the flow and function of chats and games and ensure that rules are followed. All CMs and Hosts can and will remove chatters (boot) and/or ban at will, according to the Courtesan’s rules. Please be respectful of their time and energy.

Please log-in one username at one time.

Each chatter is provided with an ignore button. Instead of causing drama and stress, flag the chatter’s post and use the button provided on the offending chatter’s profile.

No means no. Stop means stop. Neither one means “maybe”. Cease and desist when told to.

Each room has its own expectations and guidelines. If you are unclear on what they are, ASK. If you are directed to read a guidelines document, do so. If you are directed to another chat room that may better fit your advertised desires, please acquiesce.

 5 
 on: May 01, 2018, 10:43:15 PM 
Started by Admin - Last post by Admin
The BDSM room is a haven for learning on any BDSM topic. To facilitate this, we have designated a Topic of the Day. Guests are welcome to bring up any questions or new topics at any time, but we will direct chat toward the stated topic if there is a lag in the chat. On Topic photographs, art, quotations, thoughts, ideas, definitions, links, questions, teaching, experiences, and even jokes are welcome during the day and chats.

We will provide a few articles to refer to before chat.

We do ask that only on-topic photos and art be shared so that we don’t detract from the flow of chat.

An active-link copy is here: http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewpage.php?page=BDSM_Topics

May 1
Advice for New Lifestylers

http://www.evilmonk.org/A/begintip.cfm
https://www.katekinsey.com/advice-to-the-newbie-submissive.html
http://www.leathernroses.com/domination/advicenewdom.htm
May 2
50 Shades of BDSM Myths

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/16/fifty-shades-of-grey-isnt-bdsm_n_6684808.html
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/standard-deviations/201702/50-shades-happier-the-truth-about-bdsm-participants
https://ind.pn/2re5EDj
May 3
Pervertables/DIY Toys/Household Toys

https://www.kinkly.com/7/1058/passion-play/what-household-items-make-good-sex-toys
https://curioussub.wordpress.com/tag/pervertables/
http://www.frugaldomme.com/manufact/
May 4
Rewards and Punishment

http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/bryantreward.htm
https://asavory.wordpress.com/2011/06/21/punishments-and-rewards/
http://spirituallysubmissive.blogspot.com/p/punishment.html
May 5
What is BDSM/Philosophy

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201206/loving-introduction-bdsm
https://www.buzzfeed.com/caseygueren/ultimate-guide-to-bdsm?utm_term=.iqnJ2jRyw#.unXQrGnE2
http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=681&chapter=1
May 6
Relationship Dynamics/Collar Types/Collaring

http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/ravenrelationships.htm
http://www.libertypress.net/index.php/leather-life/604-d-s-relationships
http://www.bdsmdigest.com/bdsm-devices/types-of-collars/
http://bestslavetraining.com/training-techniques/general-slave-collar/
May 7
Limits/Rules

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/hard-limits-vs-soft-limits/
http://www.chicagonow.com/kinky-dominatrix/2012/11/kinky-bdsm-limits/
http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/skorpiolimits.htm
May 8
Role Play Online and Off

https://www.submissiveloving.com/bdsmscenes.html
https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/the-keys-to-role-play/
https://www.lelo.com/blog/explore-sexual-role-playing/
May 9
Fear in the Scene

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/should-a-slave-be-afraid/
http://www.paganbdsm.org/brokentoys/misc_panicattack.html
http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-jenn/responsible-fear-play/
May 10
BDSM vs. Abuse

http://domsubfriends.com/library/bd-v-ab.shtml
http://www.sirbamm.com/smvabuse.html
http://sextoyslsos.com/sex-tips/bdsm-vs-abuse/
May 11
Gor

New to Gorean forums? by Dragon  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=206&chapter=1
The Word "slut" by Nahdia   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=63&chapter=1
Quotes of Gor   http://www.gor-now.net/delphius2002/id58.htm#Slavery%20Quotes
May 12
BDSM and D/s as a Trend

How BDSM Culture Plays A Role In The Fashion Industry  http://www.fagansfinds.com/home/bdsm-culture-in-the-fashion-industry
SEX: The hottest trends   https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/sex/tips/g1122/sex-trends-hot-sex-trends/?slide=1
BedPost: Popular culture often misrepresents BDSM  http://www.thepostathens.com/article/2017/09/bdsm-history-bed-post
May 13
Extremes in the lifestyle

BDSM Wiki http://www.bdsmwiki.info/Category:Edge_Play
Defining GroinTorment: Genitorture & Groinbusting  https://fetlife.com/groups/88641/group_posts/4731807
Humiliation Chart - Ideas for BDSM Humiliation Play https://bdsmcafe.com/resources/bdsm-activities-guides-tutorials/humiliation-chart-ideas-bdsm-humiliation-play/
May 14
Dreaming, BDSM fantasy scenes

13 Of The Kinkiest Fantasies People Are Into   https://www.buzzfeed.com/benhenry/kinky-things-that-people-are-actually-into?utm_term=.abyAwq5BgP#.xcR3X4AmEB
How Common Are BDSM Fantasies?   https://www.lehmiller.com/blog/2014/11/12/how-common-are-bdsm-fantasies-infographic
24 Men Admit To The Perverted Sexual Fantasies They’re Too Embarrassed To Tell Anyone About   https://thoughtcatalog.com/lisa-woods/2016/09/24-naughty-men-admit-to-the-perverted-sexual-fantasies-theyre-too-embarrassed-to-tell-anyone-about/
May 15
Tasks

Some Tips For Online Task Development  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=356&chapter=1
12 Tasks for Your Sub To Do   https://blog.swingtowns.com/fetish/submissive-tasks/
Tasks and Projects – How To Keep Them In Line  http://dominantguide.com/524/tasks-and-projects-how-to-keep-them-in-line/
May 16
Hot Pics, Hotter Quotes

Sex.com BDSM http://www.sex.com/pics/bdsm/
BDSM on Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/Amethystrain1/bdsm/?lp=true
15 BDSM Tumblrs to satisfy all your kinks  https://www.dailydot.com/irl/bdsm-tumblr/
May 17
BDSM horror stories/ how not to do it

BDSM Dangers  https://thepowerexchange.wordpress.com/back-to-the-basics/bdsm-dangers/
A sobering reminder about the inherent dangers in what we do  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=593&chapter=1
Emergency Training for SM Practitioners  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=58&chapter=1
May 18
Game Day - the fun kind. We'll have a few chat games throughout the day

Room Slut
Pole Dancing
Harmony
Naughty Trivia
The Ballroom
Serves
May 19
How-To do your favorite BDSM thing

A Beginner's Guide to BDSM: Using and Enjoying Restraint Play Sex Toys  https://www.sportsheets.com/pages/beginners-guide-bdsm-using-enjoying-restraint-play-sex-toys-slp
Beginner's Guide To Sensation Play  https://www.uberkinky.co.uk/essential-guides/sensation-play-guides/beginners-guide-to-sensation-play.html
Role-Playing Scenarios  https://www.submissiveloving.com/bdsmscenes.html
The Garden How-To  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/browse.php?type=categories&catid=12
May 20
DD/lg, MD/lb, CG,l ageplay, infantilism, littles, middles, and Bigs

What is the DD/lg dynamic?  http://daddys-doll.blogspot.com/2013/09/what-is-ddlg-dynamic.html
What Makes a Good Daddy/Mommy? http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=342&chapter=1
Littles and Age-players - What's the Difference?  http://a-little-understanding.webs.com/littlesvsageplayers.htm
May 21
Petplay, Animal play, Pony play

BDSM 101: What is Petplay?  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjpmYgPxQ7M
Checklist for Petplay   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=531&chapter=1
Pet Play  https://limitsunleashed.com/2017/01/05/pet-play/
May 22
BDSM and D/s art, stories, and poetry

The Masque The Attic  http://www.themasque.net/efiction/browse.php?type=categories&catid=4
deviantArt BDSM  https://www.deviantart.com/newest/?section=&global=1&q=bdsm
Poetry and Prose  http://www.leathernroses.com/poems/poems.htm
May 23
Training

What Does a Dom Mean When He Says, "You Need Training" https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/what-does-a-dom-mean-when-he-says-you-need-training
The Basics of Slave Training  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=372&chapter=1
An Introduction to BDSM: How to be a Dom  http://domcoaching.com/introduction-to-kink-being-dominant
May 24
Dangerous BDSM

Exploring The Dunning-Kruger effect in BDSM  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=597&chapter=1
Walking In A Wannabee Wonderland: My Experience With A Wannabee Slave  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=434&chapter=1
Is S&M dangerous? Let’s look at the evidence  https://slate.me/25KprXh
May 25
BDSM and the Law

The Law, S/M and You  https://www.evilmonk.org/a/law.cfm
CONSENT and BDSM: The State of the Law https://www.ncsfreedom.org/component/k2/item/580-consent-and-bdsm-the-state-of-the-law
WTF: Since When is BDSM Technically Against the Law?  https://milk.xyz/articles/wtf-since-when-is-bdsm-technically-against-the-law/
May 26
Fetishes

The World's 10 Most Common Fetishes, Revealed  https://www.askmen.com/dating/vanessa/25_love_secrets.html
25 Fetishes You Probably Never Knew Existed  https://www.buzzfeed.com/alejandroalba/fetishes-you-probably-never-knew-existed?utm_term=.obrVZj3KLY#.dr60eVqMBA
Metro’s A to Z of fetishes  http://metro.co.uk/2017/07/05/metros-a-to-z-of-fetishes-b-is-for-balls-balloons-and-burping-6721512/?ito=cbshare
May 27
BDSM in the Media

BDSM and the Media: The Influence of Media on the Perception of BDSM  https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/bdsm-and-the-media-two-sides-of-a-coin
BDSM in culture and media  http://www.artandpopularculture.com/BDSM_in_culture_and_media BDSM Tropes http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/UsefulNotes/BDSM
May 28
Listening and Communication

How to Really Listen  http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-guest-author/how-to-really-listen/
Power of Listening  https://limitsunleashed.com/2014/10/13/the-power-of-listening/
Meta-Communication  http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-jenn/meta-communication/
On Communication Within a Dom/Sub Partnership  http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2014/05/on-communication-within-domsub.html
May 29
Emotional Issues in Dom/Sub Relationships

Emotional Issues in Dom/Sub Relationships  http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/02/emotional-issues-in-domsub-relationships.html
Emotional Dependency in D/s Relationships  https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/emotional-dependency-in-ds-relationships
Submission and Codependency – A Discussion  https://redefinedslave.wordpress.com/2014/02/01/submission-and-codependency-a-discussion/
May 30
Poly BDSM

How a Submissive Can Have Two Dominants and Make It Work (Hint: It Takes Communication)  https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/dominants
Polyamory  http://dominantguide.com/encyclopedia/polyamory/
Poly relationships and BDSM  https://thecage.co/phpBB/viewtopic.php?t=210&start=0&postdays=0&postorder=asc&highlight=
Three’s a Crowd, Four’s a Harem  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=563&chapter=1
May 31
Keeping the Spark Alive

“What Are We Going To Do Today, Dom?” – Some Ideas to Keep A Dynamic… Dynamic  http://dominantguide.com/3734/what-are-we-going-to-do-today-dom-some-ideas-to-keep-a-dynamic-dynamic/
How to Keep Your BDSM Relationship Fresh  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G71UtP1PWW8
10 principles for healthy 24/7 D/s and M/s  https://sexgeek.wordpress.com/2010/07/08/10-principles-for-healthy-247-ds-and-ms/
 

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 on: May 01, 2018, 10:40:33 PM 
Started by Admin - Last post by Admin
The BDSM room is a haven for learning on any BDSM topic. To facilitate this, we have designated a Topic of the Day. Guests are welcome to bring up any questions or new topics at any time, but we will direct chat toward the stated topic if there is a lag in the chat. On Topic photographs, art, quotations, thoughts, ideas, definitions, links, questions, teaching, experiences, and even jokes are welcome during the day and chats.

We will provide a few articles to refer to before chat.

We do ask that only on-topic photos and art be shared so that we don’t detract from the flow of chat.

An active-link copy is here: http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewpage.php?page=BDSM_Topics

May 1
Advice for New Lifestylers

http://www.evilmonk.org/A/begintip.cfm
https://www.katekinsey.com/advice-to-the-newbie-submissive.html
http://www.leathernroses.com/domination/advicenewdom.htm
May 2
50 Shades of BDSM Myths

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/16/fifty-shades-of-grey-isnt-bdsm_n_6684808.html
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/standard-deviations/201702/50-shades-happier-the-truth-about-bdsm-participants
https://ind.pn/2re5EDj
May 3
Pervertables/DIY Toys/Household Toys

https://www.kinkly.com/7/1058/passion-play/what-household-items-make-good-sex-toys
https://curioussub.wordpress.com/tag/pervertables/
http://www.frugaldomme.com/manufact/
May 4
Rewards and Punishment

http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/bryantreward.htm
https://asavory.wordpress.com/2011/06/21/punishments-and-rewards/
http://spirituallysubmissive.blogspot.com/p/punishment.html
May 5
What is BDSM/Philosophy

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201206/loving-introduction-bdsm
https://www.buzzfeed.com/caseygueren/ultimate-guide-to-bdsm?utm_term=.iqnJ2jRyw#.unXQrGnE2
http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=681&chapter=1
May 6
Relationship Dynamics/Collar Types/Collaring

http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/ravenrelationships.htm
http://www.libertypress.net/index.php/leather-life/604-d-s-relationships
http://www.bdsmdigest.com/bdsm-devices/types-of-collars/
http://bestslavetraining.com/training-techniques/general-slave-collar/
May 7
Limits/Rules

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/hard-limits-vs-soft-limits/
http://www.chicagonow.com/kinky-dominatrix/2012/11/kinky-bdsm-limits/
http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/skorpiolimits.htm
May 8
Role Play Online and Off

https://www.submissiveloving.com/bdsmscenes.html
https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/the-keys-to-role-play/
https://www.lelo.com/blog/explore-sexual-role-playing/
May 9
Fear in the Scene

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/should-a-slave-be-afraid/
http://www.paganbdsm.org/brokentoys/misc_panicattack.html
http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-jenn/responsible-fear-play/
May 10
BDSM vs. Abuse

http://domsubfriends.com/library/bd-v-ab.shtml
http://www.sirbamm.com/smvabuse.html
http://sextoyslsos.com/sex-tips/bdsm-vs-abuse/
May 11
Gor

New to Gorean forums? by Dragon  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=206&chapter=1
The Word "slut" by Nahdia   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=63&chapter=1
Quotes of Gor   http://www.gor-now.net/delphius2002/id58.htm#Slavery%20Quotes
May 12
BDSM and D/s as a Trend

How BDSM Culture Plays A Role In The Fashion Industry  http://www.fagansfinds.com/home/bdsm-culture-in-the-fashion-industry
SEX: The hottest trends   https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/sex/tips/g1122/sex-trends-hot-sex-trends/?slide=1
BedPost: Popular culture often misrepresents BDSM  http://www.thepostathens.com/article/2017/09/bdsm-history-bed-post
May 13
Extremes in the lifestyle

BDSM Wiki http://www.bdsmwiki.info/Category:Edge_Play
Defining GroinTorment: Genitorture & Groinbusting  https://fetlife.com/groups/88641/group_posts/4731807
Humiliation Chart - Ideas for BDSM Humiliation Play https://bdsmcafe.com/resources/bdsm-activities-guides-tutorials/humiliation-chart-ideas-bdsm-humiliation-play/
May 14
Dreaming, BDSM fantasy scenes

13 Of The Kinkiest Fantasies People Are Into   https://www.buzzfeed.com/benhenry/kinky-things-that-people-are-actually-into?utm_term=.abyAwq5BgP#.xcR3X4AmEB
How Common Are BDSM Fantasies?   https://www.lehmiller.com/blog/2014/11/12/how-common-are-bdsm-fantasies-infographic
24 Men Admit To The Perverted Sexual Fantasies They’re Too Embarrassed To Tell Anyone About   https://thoughtcatalog.com/lisa-woods/2016/09/24-naughty-men-admit-to-the-perverted-sexual-fantasies-theyre-too-embarrassed-to-tell-anyone-about/
May 15
Tasks

Some Tips For Online Task Development  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=356&chapter=1
12 Tasks for Your Sub To Do   https://blog.swingtowns.com/fetish/submissive-tasks/
Tasks and Projects – How To Keep Them In Line  http://dominantguide.com/524/tasks-and-projects-how-to-keep-them-in-line/
May 16
Hot Pics, Hotter Quotes

Sex.com BDSM http://www.sex.com/pics/bdsm/
BDSM on Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/Amethystrain1/bdsm/?lp=true
15 BDSM Tumblrs to satisfy all your kinks  https://www.dailydot.com/irl/bdsm-tumblr/
May 17
BDSM horror stories/ how not to do it

BDSM Dangers  https://thepowerexchange.wordpress.com/back-to-the-basics/bdsm-dangers/
A sobering reminder about the inherent dangers in what we do  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=593&chapter=1
Emergency Training for SM Practitioners  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=58&chapter=1
May 18
Game Day - the fun kind. We'll have a few chat games throughout the day

Room Slut
Pole Dancing
Harmony
Naughty Trivia
The Ballroom
Serves
May 19
How-To do your favorite BDSM thing

A Beginner's Guide to BDSM: Using and Enjoying Restraint Play Sex Toys  https://www.sportsheets.com/pages/beginners-guide-bdsm-using-enjoying-restraint-play-sex-toys-slp
Beginner's Guide To Sensation Play  https://www.uberkinky.co.uk/essential-guides/sensation-play-guides/beginners-guide-to-sensation-play.html
Role-Playing Scenarios  https://www.submissiveloving.com/bdsmscenes.html
The Garden How-To  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/browse.php?type=categories&catid=12
May 20
DD/lg, MD/lb, CG,l ageplay, infantilism, littles, middles, and Bigs

What is the DD/lg dynamic?  http://daddys-doll.blogspot.com/2013/09/what-is-ddlg-dynamic.html
What Makes a Good Daddy/Mommy? http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=342&chapter=1
Littles and Age-players - What's the Difference?  http://a-little-understanding.webs.com/littlesvsageplayers.htm
May 21
Petplay, Animal play, Pony play

BDSM 101: What is Petplay?  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjpmYgPxQ7M
Checklist for Petplay   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=531&chapter=1
Pet Play  https://limitsunleashed.com/2017/01/05/pet-play/
May 22
BDSM and D/s art, stories, and poetry

The Masque The Attic  http://www.themasque.net/efiction/browse.php?type=categories&catid=4
deviantArt BDSM  https://www.deviantart.com/newest/?section=&global=1&q=bdsm
Poetry and Prose  http://www.leathernroses.com/poems/poems.htm
May 23
Training

What Does a Dom Mean When He Says, "You Need Training" https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/what-does-a-dom-mean-when-he-says-you-need-training
The Basics of Slave Training  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=372&chapter=1
An Introduction to BDSM: How to be a Dom  http://domcoaching.com/introduction-to-kink-being-dominant
May 24
Dangerous BDSM

Exploring The Dunning-Kruger effect in BDSM  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=597&chapter=1
Walking In A Wannabee Wonderland: My Experience With A Wannabee Slave  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=434&chapter=1
Is S&M dangerous? Let’s look at the evidence  https://slate.me/25KprXh
May 25
BDSM and the Law

The Law, S/M and You  https://www.evilmonk.org/a/law.cfm
CONSENT and BDSM: The State of the Law https://www.ncsfreedom.org/component/k2/item/580-consent-and-bdsm-the-state-of-the-law
WTF: Since When is BDSM Technically Against the Law?  https://milk.xyz/articles/wtf-since-when-is-bdsm-technically-against-the-law/
May 26
Fetishes

The World's 10 Most Common Fetishes, Revealed  https://www.askmen.com/dating/vanessa/25_love_secrets.html
25 Fetishes You Probably Never Knew Existed  https://www.buzzfeed.com/alejandroalba/fetishes-you-probably-never-knew-existed?utm_term=.obrVZj3KLY#.dr60eVqMBA
Metro’s A to Z of fetishes  http://metro.co.uk/2017/07/05/metros-a-to-z-of-fetishes-b-is-for-balls-balloons-and-burping-6721512/?ito=cbshare
May 27
BDSM in the Media

BDSM and the Media: The Influence of Media on the Perception of BDSM  https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/bdsm-and-the-media-two-sides-of-a-coin
BDSM in culture and media  http://www.artandpopularculture.com/BDSM_in_culture_and_media BDSM Tropes http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/UsefulNotes/BDSM
May 28
Listening and Communication

How to Really Listen  http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-guest-author/how-to-really-listen/
Power of Listening  https://limitsunleashed.com/2014/10/13/the-power-of-listening/
Meta-Communication  http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-jenn/meta-communication/
On Communication Within a Dom/Sub Partnership  http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2014/05/on-communication-within-domsub.html
May 29
Emotional Issues in Dom/Sub Relationships

Emotional Issues in Dom/Sub Relationships  http://thejourneyofwill.blogspot.com/2013/02/emotional-issues-in-domsub-relationships.html
Emotional Dependency in D/s Relationships  https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/emotional-dependency-in-ds-relationships
Submission and Codependency – A Discussion  https://redefinedslave.wordpress.com/2014/02/01/submission-and-codependency-a-discussion/
May 30
Poly BDSM

How a Submissive Can Have Two Dominants and Make It Work (Hint: It Takes Communication)  https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/dominants
Polyamory  http://dominantguide.com/encyclopedia/polyamory/
Poly relationships and BDSM  https://thecage.co/phpBB/viewtopic.php?t=210&start=0&postdays=0&postorder=asc&highlight=
Three’s a Crowd, Four’s a Harem  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=563&chapter=1
May 31
Keeping the Spark Alive

“What Are We Going To Do Today, Dom?” – Some Ideas to Keep A Dynamic… Dynamic  http://dominantguide.com/3734/what-are-we-going-to-do-today-dom-some-ideas-to-keep-a-dynamic-dynamic/
How to Keep Your BDSM Relationship Fresh  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G71UtP1PWW8
10 principles for healthy 24/7 D/s and M/s  https://sexgeek.wordpress.com/2010/07/08/10-principles-for-healthy-247-ds-and-ms/
 

 7 
 on: April 22, 2018, 05:57:54 PM 
Started by Admin - Last post by Admin
Our BDSM Garden Room is a place where people from the D/s and BDSM community, both new and seasoned, gather to chat. We ask each other questions, give advice, and share experiences on all subjects. This community is open and built on trust. We do not always talk about BDSM so don't be scared. Join us, we’re a friendly lot!

What is BDSM?
BDSM stands for Bondage, Domination (Discipline), Submission (Sadism, Switch), Masochism.   BDSM means different things to different people and there is no one standard meaning, activity, or fetish. It is the lifestyle that allows for and encourages hundreds of fetishes and trust-based relationships based in Power Exchange. Power Exchange is the voluntary trade of personal, physical, or emotional agency to another person in exchange for some kind of emotional or physical tender or service. A Top (the person with active agency) controls a scene (the actions and situation) for the bottom (the passive patient).

BDSM eroticizes or fetishizes actions, sensations, and emotions that may otherwise be considered unpleasant, inappropriate, dehumanizing, perverted, or downright odd in other contexts or relationships.
BDSM emphasizes trust, communication, intimacy, choice, and affection as core values.
We live by one of several tenets: SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual), RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) or PRICK (Personal Responsibility in Informed Consensual Kink). Note that they all espouse consent and thought before action. Not every activity involves or leads to sex, though many do.

Also, despite what [a certain, much hated, novel series that references number of colors suggests] we are perfectly normal. That series and common thought states that those who participate in BDSM are somehow emotionally damaged. BDSM does not come from or support domestic violence or abuse, and the people who engage in BDSM are not any more abusive, violent, or mentally ill than people not involved in the lifestyle.  Not everyone or even most people involved in BDSM come from abusive backgrounds, nor do they perpetuate abuse.

Enjoying BDSM is another part of normal sexual intimacy that normal people participate in. Anyone you know, from family members to coworkers, from salespeople to billion-dollar company CEOs, could be involved in BDSM – and they are all completely normal. Each person has his or her own motivations for doing BDSM or D/s. The one thing that we all have in common is that, one way or another, BDSM makes us feel good.

What is D/s?
D/s is the “lifestyle” part of BDSM, where a Dominant (the person in the superior position) and submissive (the person in the subordinate or subservient position) are in a long-term relationship. Because each relationship is different and there is no single standard for how to do BDSM and D/s, there is no absolute way to describe a D/s relationship other than there is a Dominant and a submissive involved in it. The dynamic varies from “playing in the bedroom occasionally,” to a 24/7 dynamic between a Master and consensual slave.

Why do we do BDSM?
Because, for one reason or another, it feels good! It could be emotional or physical or both. Each person will have a different specific answer, so feel free to ask.

A few sexy ideas
The easiest way to start BDSM play is using scarves or ties to tie your partner up and play sensation games with touch and taste (try ice or chocolate!).  Many are fond of a few swats on fatty or fleshy body parts while having sex to see where that leads. Role playing Master or Mistress can be a great way to get housework done with some good sex as a reward.

Be sure to check in with your partner when playing by asking, “How does that feel?” often. You can also use a common safe word system of stoplight colors with red meaning, “Stop Right Now,” yellow meaning, “That might be making me uncomfortable, so slow down a little bit,” and green meaning, “More, more, more!”

About The BDSM Garden Chatroom
Please join us in The BDSM Garden room! We’d love to meet you but we would like you to read our etiquette expectations and traditions first so you understand why we’re doing the things we’re doing in this room. We do request that you join us in celebrating some of the traditions of on and offline D/s. By no means are these traditions and expectations mandatory except our gentle request that everyone be respectful in their interactions.

The BDSM Garden Chat Room Etiquette, Expectations & Traditions...
to better understand why we're doing the things we're doing.


The BDSM Garden is a safe place to teach, learn, and celebrate all things related to Domination, submission, and BDSM. It is also understood that the topic of conversation varies greatly and does not always include D/s or BDSM. BDSM topics are always encouraged, however. Polite debate and discussion of D/s topics should be the goal of the chat room.

We hope you will join us in celebrating some of our traditions and expectations.

•   Respect the other chatters. We do not discriminate between those who participate in BDSM activities and those who do not. We also have a policy of YKINMKBYKIOK (Your Kink Is Not My Kink, But Your Kink Is Okay). The only exceptions are violations of the site rules.

•   Chatters are respectfully requested to register usernames and have a correct age listed in the profile.

•   The Dominants govern the room. The Dominants, as a group, are empowered to control the behavior, discipline, and tone of the room. The Dominants should encourage others to ignore unpleasant elements in chat and encourage the misdirected chatter to the proper room. The submissives should let the dominants handle the issue. No single Dominant is in charge; the collective majority is. Moderators are present to enforce the site rules and the decision of the Dominants, as long as they coincide with the site rules.

•   Though allowing the Dominants the honor of assisting and protecting is preferred and encouraged, under any circumstances, the submissives are empowered to defend themselves. Use of the Block button is suggested for the entire room. Moderators are present to enforce the site rules.

•   Traditionally, a Capitalized name is a Dominant or Top; a lowercase name is a submissive or bottom. Your mileage and grammar preferences may vary.

•   While we understand English grammar rules, traditionally, a Dominant is referred to with capitalized pronouns and honorifics as a courtesy, i.e., Her, You, They, Sir, Ma'am; a submissive is referred to with lowercase. This may translate into using phrases like “Y/you A/all”, meaning a collective of Dominants and submissives. Submissive or slave referral to self in third person is acceptable and may be considered a formality. Honorifics are not required in chat.

•   Submissives are encouraged ask permission to enter and leave the chat room. Dominants should grant entrance promptly. This immediately reminds every person attending that this is a BDSM room. It puts the submissives into a D/s mindset, rather than a generic chat or play mindset. Granting entrance engages the Dominants in their service and attentiveness, too. It produces a symbiosis of D/s in two sentences. It creates a theme of service and formality that differentiates this room from general chat rooms. Some Dominants have their own rules for their submissives’ entrance. Those rules will always prevail.

•   If a collared, protected, or otherwise claimed submissive misbehaves, discipline or correction should be given by the Dominant he/she is protected by. If another Dominant has a complaint about a collared submissive, it should be given directly to that submissive's Dominant, privately.

•   If an unowned submissive or a Dominant is disruptive, the other present Dominants, will manage the discussion/discipline of the member. This should be a group decision, and never the actions of a single Dominant, even if the matter must be tabled until Others are present.

•   Please ask to private message other members of the room.

•   The rooms’ submissives, slaves, and bottoms are not required to serve any person they are not bound to.

•   We have a Topic of the Day. Guests are welcome to bring up any questions or new topics at any time, but we will direct chat toward the scheduled topic if there is a lag in the chat. On Topic photographs, art, quotations, thoughts, ideas, definitions, links, questions, teaching, experiences, and jokes are welcome. A calendar for the chats is here. https://calendar.google.com/calendar/r?pli=1&t=AKUaPmbrIfIroiQJh_qnrTBT7nF3BUiM9hcDZ-AuEkGnR9SWUCNGTzKFxgRF31eshLG4WMG2tYGf4pJyu3SXEGNvX4CfE6n58w%3D%3D

•   Members new to BDSM, both Dominant and submissive, are encouraged to seek an experienced mentor for guidance and learning. Mentorship is not normally a sexual relationship and may or may not cross D/s lines. Questions from newer lifestyle people are always welcome in the room. It is always a good idea to research a mentor before asking for mentorship.

•   Unless the Dominant/Top involved in a public scene invites participation, do not jump into a scene through action, advice, or talking with the people in the scene. They are focused on each other and distractions are disruptive. Crosstalk during a scene or serve is allowed.

•   While The BDSM Garden Room does have food and drinks from John Norman’s Gor series, as well as furs for slaves, and Gorean serves and dances are welcome and appreciated, The BDSM Garden is not a Gorean chat.

•   Please do not post random porn photos or links to the The BDSM Garden. We prefer our photos to be on theme and coincide with the topic being discussed. You are welcome to DJ during non-topic chat times.

•   For ease of understanding, please spell out all of your words in chat. This is an English-speaking chat.

•   Civility is required, respect is earned.


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 on: April 22, 2018, 05:43:24 PM 
Started by Admin - Last post by Admin
email kissa_bites@yahoo.com to request edits or additions. Not all topics will be addressed each month.

The BDSM room is a haven for learning on any BDSM topic. To facilitate this, we have designated a Topic of the Day. Guests are welcome to bring up any questions or new topics at any time, but we will direct chat toward the stated topic if there is a lag in the chat. On Topic photographs, art, quotations, thoughts, ideas, definitions, links, questions, teaching, experiences, and even jokes are welcome during the day and chats.

We will provide a few articles to refer to before chat.

We do ask that only on-topic photos and art be shared so that we don’t detract from the flow of chat.

To add:
-Contracts
-Switching
-What a submissive needs to expect and demand from a potential Dominant
-sterotypes of behavior being applied to control roles e.g. a sub refusing to do activities for a dominant because it wasn't what they considered dominant desires
-consent from all aspects, from the fallacy of implied consent to enthusiastic consent to expressed consent
-recipes and food play


Fetishes
•   The World's 10 Most Common Fetishes, Revealed  https://www.askmen.com/dating/vanessa/25_love_secrets.html
•   25 Fetishes You Probably Never Knew Existed  https://www.buzzfeed.com/alejandroalba/fetishes-you-probably-never-knew-existed?utm_term=.obrVZj3KLY#.dr60eVqMBA
•   Metro’s A to Z of fetishes  http://metro.co.uk/2017/07/05/metros-a-to-z-of-fetishes-b-is-for-balls-balloons-and-burping-6721512/?ito=cbshare


aftercare
sub drop/Top drop
shibari/kinbaku/ties
leather/steel bondage
impact play
sensation play
subspace/top space
safety/safewords/SSC/RACK/PRICK
serving
etiquette/high protocol

Advice for New Lifestylers
•   http://www.evilmonk.org/A/begintip.cfm
•   https://www.katekinsey.com/advice-to-the-newbie-submissive.html
•   http://www.leathernroses.com/domination/advicenewdom.htm

50 Shades of BDSM Myths
•   https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/16/fifty-shades-of-grey-isnt-bdsm_n_6684808.html
•   https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/standard-deviations/201702/50-shades-happier-the-truth-about-bdsm-participants
•   https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/common-bdsm-myths-its-not-a-new-fad-its-not-violent-and-not-everyone-who-partakes-is-psychologically-a6702396.html

Pervertables/DIY Toys/Household Toys
•   https://www.kinkly.com/7/1058/passion-play/what-household-items-make-good-sex-toys
•   https://curioussub.wordpress.com/tag/pervertables/
•   http://www.frugaldomme.com/manufact/

Rewards and Punishment
•   http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/bryantreward.htm
•   https://asavory.wordpress.com/2011/06/21/punishments-and-rewards/
•   http://spirituallysubmissive.blogspot.com/p/punishment.html

What is BDSM/Philosophy                                                                                                                                     •   https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201206/loving-introduction-bdsm
•   https://www.buzzfeed.com/caseygueren/ultimate-guide-to-bdsm?utm_term=.iqnJ2jRyw#.unXQrGnE2
•   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=681&chapter=1                                                            
Relationship Dynamics/Collar Types/Collaring
•   http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/ravenrelationships.htm
•   http://www.libertypress.net/index.php/leather-life/604-d-s-relationships
•   http://www.bdsmdigest.com/bdsm-devices/types-of-collars/
•   http://bestslavetraining.com/training-techniques/general-slave-collar/

Limits/Rules
•   https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/hard-limits-vs-soft-limits/
•   http://www.chicagonow.com/kinky-dominatrix/2012/11/kinky-bdsm-limits/
•   http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/skorpiolimits.htm

Role Play Online and Off
•   https://www.submissiveloving.com/bdsmscenes.html
•   https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/the-keys-to-role-play/
•   https://www.lelo.com/blog/explore-sexual-role-playing/

Fear in the Scene
•   https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/should-a-slave-be-afraid/
•   http://www.paganbdsm.org/brokentoys/misc_panicattack.html
•   http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-jenn/responsible-fear-play/

BDSM vs. Abuse
•   http://domsubfriends.com/library/bd-v-ab.shtml
•   http://www.sirbamm.com/smvabuse.html
•   http://sextoyslsos.com/sex-tips/bdsm-vs-abuse/


Journaling and journaling topics
Relationship rules
Public outings/public BDSM
Self-care for the unpaired
Tools and Toys
Self-training for the unpaired
How kinky is kinky?
Mental and Physical Handicaps in BDSM
The BDSM Spectrum

Gor
•   New to Gorean forums? by Dragon   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=206&chapter=1
•   The Word "slut" by Nahdia   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=63&chapter=1
•   Quotes of Gor                     http://www.gor-now.net/delphius2002/id58.htm#Slavery%20Quotes

BDSM and D/s as a Trend
•   How BDSM Culture Plays A Role In The Fashion Industry  http://www.fagansfinds.com/home/bdsm-culture-in-the-fashion-industry
•   SEX: The hottest trends   https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/sex/tips/g1122/sex-trends-hot-sex-trends/?slide=1
•   BedPost: Popular culture often misrepresents BDSM  http://www.thepostathens.com/article/2017/09/bdsm-history-bed-post

Extremes in the lifestyle
•   BDSM Wiki http://www.bdsmwiki.info/Category:Edge_Play
•   Defining GroinTorment: Genitorture & Groinbusting  https://fetlife.com/groups/88641/group_posts/4731807
•   Humiliation Chart - Ideas for BDSM Humiliation Play https://bdsmcafe.com/resources/bdsm-activities-guides-tutorials/humiliation-chart-ideas-bdsm-humiliation-play/

Dreaming, BDSM fantasy scenes
•   13 Of The Kinkiest Fantasies People Are Into   https://www.buzzfeed.com/benhenry/kinky-things-that-people-are-actually-into?utm_term=.abyAwq5BgP#.xcR3X4AmEB
•   How Common Are BDSM Fantasies?   https://www.lehmiller.com/blog/2014/11/12/how-common-are-bdsm-fantasies-infographic
•   24 Men Admit To The Perverted Sexual Fantasies They’re Too Embarrassed To Tell Anyone About   https://thoughtcatalog.com/lisa-woods/2016/09/24-naughty-men-admit-to-the-perverted-sexual-fantasies-theyre-too-embarrassed-to-tell-anyone-about/

Tasks
•   Some Tips For Online Task Development  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=356&chapter=1
•   12 Tasks for Your Sub To Do   https://blog.swingtowns.com/fetish/submissive-tasks/
•   Tasks and Projects – How To Keep Them In Line  http://dominantguide.com/524/tasks-and-projects-how-to-keep-them-in-line/

Hot Pics, Hotter Quotes
•   Sex.com BDSM http://www.sex.com/pics/bdsm/
•   BDSM on Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/Amethystrain1/bdsm/?lp=true
•   15 BDSM Tumblrs to satisfy all your kinks  https://www.dailydot.com/irl/bdsm-tumblr/BDSM horror stories/ how not to do it

BDSM horror stories/ how not to do it
•   BDSM Dangers  https://thepowerexchange.wordpress.com/back-to-the-basics/bdsm-dangers/
•   A sobering reminder about the inherent dangers in what we do  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=593&chapter=1
•   Emergency Training for SM Practitioners  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=58&chapter=1

Game Day - the fun kind. We'll have a few chat games throughout the day
•   Room Slut
•   Pole Dancing
•   Harmony
•   Naughty Trivia
•   The Ballroom
•   Serves

How-To do your favorite BDSM thing
•   A Beginner's Guide to BDSM: Using and Enjoying Restraint Play Sex Toys  https://www.sportsheets.com/pages/beginners-guide-bdsm-using-enjoying-restraint-play-sex-toys-slp
•   Beginner's Guide To Sensation Play  https://www.uberkinky.co.uk/essential-guides/sensation-play-guides/beginners-guide-to-sensation-play.html
•   Role-Playing Scenarios  https://www.submissiveloving.com/bdsmscenes.html
•   The Garden How-To  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/browse.php?type=categories&catid=12

DD/lg, MD/lb, CG,l ageplay, infantilism, littles, middles, and Bigs
•   What is the DD/lg dynamic?  http://daddys-doll.blogspot.com/2013/09/what-is-ddlg-dynamic.html
•   What Makes a Good Daddy/Mommy? http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=342&chapter=1
•   Littles and Age-players - What's the Difference?  http://a-little-understanding.webs.com/littlesvsageplayers.htm

Petplay, Animal play, Pony play
•   BDSM 101: What is Petplay?  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjpmYgPxQ7M
•   Checklist for Petplay   http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=531&chapter=1
•   Pet Play  https://limitsunleashed.com/2017/01/05/pet-play/

BDSM and D/s art, stories, and poetry
•   The Masque The Attic  http://www.themasque.net/efiction/browse.php?type=categories&catid=4
•   deviantArt BDSM  https://www.deviantart.com/newest/?section=&global=1&q=bdsm
•   Poetry and Prose  http://www.leathernroses.com/poems/poems.htm

Training
•   What Does a Dom Mean When He Says, "You Need Training" https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/what-does-a-dom-mean-when-he-says-you-need-training
•   The Basics of Slave Training  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=372&chapter=1
•   An Introduction to BDSM: How to be a Dom  http://domcoaching.com/introduction-to-kink-being-dominant

Dangerous BDSM
•   Exploring The Dunning-Kruger effect in BDSM  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=597&chapter=1
•   Walking In A Wannabee Wonderland: My Experience With A Wannabee Slave  http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=434&chapter=1
•   Is S&M dangerous? Let’s look at the evidence  http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/human_nature/2013/07/bondage_s_m_dominance_and_submission_are_they_dangerous_let_s_look_at_the.html

BDSM and the Law
•   The Law, S/M and You  https://www.evilmonk.org/a/law.cfm
•   CONSENT and BDSM: The State of the Law https://www.ncsfreedom.org/component/k2/item/580-consent-and-bdsm-the-state-of-the-law
•   WTF: Since When is BDSM Technically Against the Law?  https://milk.xyz/articles/wtf-since-when-is-bdsm-technically-against-the-law/

Fetishes
•   The World's 10 Most Common Fetishes, Revealed  https://www.askmen.com/dating/vanessa/25_love_secrets.html
•   25 Fetishes You Probably Never Knew Existed  https://www.buzzfeed.com/alejandroalba/fetishes-you-probably-never-knew-existed?utm_term=.obrVZj3KLY#.dr60eVqMBA
•   Metro’s A to Z of fetishes  http://metro.co.uk/2017/07/05/metros-a-to-z-of-fetishes-b-is-for-balls-balloons-and-burping-6721512/?ito=cbshare

BDSM in the Media
•   BDSM and the Media: The Influence of Media on the Perception of BDSM  https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/bdsm-and-the-media-two-sides-of-a-coin
•   BDSM in culture and media  http://www.artandpopularculture.com/BDSM_in_culture_and_media
•   BDSM Tropes http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/UsefulNotes/BDSM

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