Masked dancers, in glowing silks and shimmering satin costumes and dominos gavotte under the candlelight of Murano crystal chandeliers. Velvet-curtained alcoves conceal card games and trysts while musicians in one corner play for the dancers. Uniformed footmen offer champagne to all. Resting on a table near a gilded door, are feathered half-masks for newcomers.

The Masque has a calendar of Ballroom activities on the forums, here.

The Masque's CHATROOM is for users eighteen (18+) years and over and is sponsored by


BDSM Room Etiquette, Expectations & Traditions...

to better understand why we're doing the things we're doing.

321Chat's BDSM room is a safe place to teach, learn, and celebrate all things related to Domination, submission, and BDSM. It is also understood that the topic of conversation varies greatly and does not always include D/s or BDSM. BDSM topics are always encouraged, however. Polite debate and discussion of D/s topics should be the goal of the chat room.

We hope you will join us in celebrating some of our traditions and expectations.

  • Respect the other chatters. We do not discriminate between those who participate in BDSM activities and those who do not. We also have a policy of YKINMKBYKIOK (Your Kink Is Not My Kink, But Your Kink Is Okay). The only exceptions are violations of the site rules.
  • Chatters are respectfully requested to register usernames and have a correct age listed in the profile.
  • The well-known and trusted Dominants control the room and are responsible for the safety of the submissives; submissives should let the Dominants do so. This includes granting entrance and removing any unpleasant element in chat and play.
  • The Dominants should, if an unwelcome element enters the chat room, encourage A/all to use the ignore button and peacefully encourage the chatter to leave. The submissives should let the Dominants handle the matter without assistance. Moderators are only present to enforce the site rules.
  • Traditionally, a Capitalized name is a Dominant; a lowercase name is a submissive.
  • A name with letters in brackets at the end indicates a collared or protected submissive, i.e., jane{D}, or a Dominant honoring a submissive with a symbol of the collar, i.e., Dan{j}.
  • While we understand English grammar rules, traditionally, a Dominant is referred to with capitalized pronouns and honorifics as a courtesy, i.e., Her, You, They, Sir, Ma'am; a submissive is referred to with lowercase. This may translate into using phrases like “Y/you A/all”, meaning a collective of Dominants and submissives. Submissive or slave referral to self in the third person is acceptable and may be considered a formality.
  • submissives should ask permission to enter and leave the chat room. This is a reminder of their submission and also a gesture of respect to the Dominants. Dom/mes should grant entrance promptly and in a courteous manner. The Dominant(s) granting admission should be thanked by the submissive before greeting others.
  • If a collared, protected, or otherwise claimed submissive misbehaves, the punishment should be given by the Dominant he/she is protected by. If another Dominant has a complaint about a collared submissive, it should be given directly to that submissive's Dominant, privately. The room’s Dominants will manage punishment or discussion with unprotected submissives or other Dominants. Moderators will continue to enforce the website’s rules.
  • Please ask to private message other members of the room.
  • Unless the Dominant/Top involved in a public scene invites participation, do not jump into the scene through action, advice, or talking with the people in the scene. They are focused on each other and distractions are disruptive.
  • While the BDSM Room does have food and drinks from John Norman’s Gor series, as well as a pile of furs for slaves, and Gorean serves and dances are welcome and appreciated, 321sexchat’s BDSM room is not a Gorean chat.
  • Please do not post random porn photos, links, or music to the BDSM room. There are other rooms for that. We prefer our photos to be on theme and coincide with the topic being discussed at the moment.
  • For ease of understanding, please spell out all of your words in chat.
  • Politeness is required, respect is earned.
  • You must be 18+ to chat here
  • No flooding, trolling, cloning
  • No hacking, exploiting, spoofing
  • No posting links to other chat sites
  • No posting links to .exe or .zip files
  • No distributing personal information, even your own.
  • No racism

No Incest (family related role-play including names such as "younger" & "lil"), rape, forced sex and bestiality rooms or usernames. We will continue to work with police and government agencies to pursue anyone who attempts to endanger children.


  • No typing in all caps
  • No repeatedly messaging someone who clearly is not replying

Our moderators are regular people who are here to chat and have a good time. They do their best to keep things running smoothly and troll free. Please use the redline or ignore button if someone is annoying you rather than asking a moderator to referee an online squabble.


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